I am guilty of it more times than I care to admit. I’ve come to realize by how much I despise receiving it, and that it is most definitely time to make sure I’m not hurting anyone else with it….I’m talking about sarcasm. I’m so sick of sarcasm and the smart-aleck response!
It’s everywhere! T-shirts, bumper-stickers! I can’t get away from it. It seems nearly impossible to talk with anyone these days without sarcasm making its way into and taking over the conversation. Some of the funniest conversations I’ve ever had most definitely were peppered with sarcasm. It is part of humor, I get it, but it is time for me to stop and reconsider. I read once, “Show me a sarcastic person and I will show you a wounded person. And I can tell you where their wound is too.” How true is this? I believe it is very true. And if we all stop and really listen to the people talking around us, we may realize just how wounded even our closest friends and family really are.
It has really hit me lately as I’ve witnessed in my own family just how difficult it is for me to make a simple comment about anything without getting some snide, smart aleck-type, sarcastic comment in return. The nuts don’t fall far from the tree and so, the self-examination of my heart starts now.
The Bible says we are to treat others the way we want to be treated, and while it may be a little selfish of me, it has taken me getting to this place of absolute frustration for me to decide to change, and even realize I am guilty of it. How much of what is coming out of my mouth is sarcasm? Heaven knows I do it while driving, but where and how else? It is time to investigate because our children learn from what we model for them. What is their model in me, my actions, my words?
The Word of God tells us in Matthew 5:37 “Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil.” also, Luke 6:31 says, “And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.” And lastly, Luke 6:45 says, “for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” We are to speak life into people. Sarcasm is death…and finding its way very quickly to be unfunny. It is destroying communication and we are losing authenticity in our relationships. There is nothing left that is real, only sarcasm and reading between the lines.
What are we really saying about ourselves with our sarcasm? What are we telling people about what we think of them? How are we hurting others? How do we know where we stand with one another if we only use sarcasm?
It is something to think about. And maybe it’s time to go back to the old saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Maybe if we all did that, we might hear the crickets chirp…a welcome sound indeed.